This is a topic that is near and dear to my own heart, but for another reason.
As a liver transplant recipient, I avoid alcohol because of the risk involved of damage to my transplanted organ. Since my issue is not related to a tendency toward addiction, or family history, I am a little hesitant to jump in here.
Let me add that I admire anyone who is making an effort to deal with your situation on a daily basis. I have witnessed family member and friends who struggle with the same issues. And now, especially after my own transplant issue, I have become even more aware, painfully aware, of the way our society incorrectly presumes that every celebration or holiday gathering needs to include alcohol.
I send you my prayers for strength as you continue your journey to remain 'alcohol free'. And I want you to know that my husband and I are the couple who celebrate our anniversaries and special occasions with an iced tea toast! And I will have the cooler of soft drinks at our town's outdoor festival in a couple weeks, too.
Rosemary