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~ Difficult transition with move, loss of dog, kitty ill ~
Well, as several of you know I moved to VA from MD about 18 months ago. I didn't want to make the move and it took me 5 years to decide to do it. Two of my three kids harassed me to move down near them, "since I'm getting older." I had my own condo in MD, am quite healthy and active, and had just gotten a divorce after a 40 year marriage ..... I felt oh so relieved when I moved into my condo ..... "it was mine" and I felt, safe and comfy - I savored it. After years of my kids wanting me to move down here (to VA), I finally made the move, but it has been a very difficult transition ..... when I got here, I had to have my teeth extracted as I need dentures (still don't have the teeth yet), I had to have my sweet dog, Molly, put down (Cavalier, King Charles Spaniel) due to congestive heart failure, my tenant in my condo is moving and it is now up for sale 🙁 , and just last week I took my kitty to the Vet. and he is doing a whole panel of blood work .... diabetes, heart, kidneys, thyroid, etc. She's 11. I have been on a waiting list for a first floor apartment down closer to my girls for about 6 months now ... it's a low income apartment. I have to go up Tuesday to check my condo with the Realtor to see if everything is OK in order to give my tenant her security deposit back ...... I don't look forward to that at all. I did find a church, but it's 1-1/2 hrs. away. It will be closer once I move to the apartments, that is IF I ever move there. If it had not cost me so much to move down here, at this point I would move back, but I'm still paying all that off through a freedom debt company.
Thanks for listening, abby (the whiner)
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@georgette12 I like that idea of celebrating your own personal independence! Good plan - Teresa
Thank you so much Georgette .... what a wonderful idea. ..... celebrating my own independence ...... that's a really great idea.
Many thanks my friend ....
abby
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1 ReactionAMEN! Me too!
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2 ReactionsUh-oh ..... I think age is creeping up on me ....... I'm in the midst of packing up to move to Staunton, VA, and as I usually do I have a list of the things I want to do first, second and so on. Well, yesterday I really went at it, and I am really feeling it this morning! Everytime I sit down I fall asleep! I really am tired. Since my revision surgery on my knee was done I have not been able to get to the gym because frankly I didn't know where to go, so I know some of it is poor stamina. I've got to do that once I get moved. For now, since I've got plenty of time, I'll just have to take smaller bites each day. As I get the back of my car loaded up (have an SUV), I'll drive it down there and put it in the necessary room, so that when the moving day comes the men in my family will only have to take the furniture.
I have a girlfriend in PA who always reminds me, "inch by inch anything's a cinch." True.
abby
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2 Reactions@amberpep, If it is any comfort - you are not alone. My sister-in-law has just gone thru what you are going thru - moving. She is downsizing from her house of 30 years that she and my brother built. After my brother died, she did not have the desire or energy to deal with it. Now after 3 years, she made the decision, and has been 'on a mission' to get it done. She said she, too, would fall asleep whenever she sat down.
Thank you for the update. Rosemary
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1 ReactionWell, closing is this Friday .... and right now I'm in the midst of "overnighting the $$, "overnighting the papers," etc. It's sort of funny, or maybe it's just rolling off, but these realtors I have sit on things til the last minute then they run around like the proverbial headless chicken! They're good people, but oh my, I wouldn't want that stress. So, Friday, when it's no longer "mine" ..... I am emotionally free of it. Oh sure I'll think about it - first place I lived after I left my now X, and it was just what I needed. But it's time to move on.
Thank you so much, friends, throughout all this. You've been real blessings to me.
abby
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3 Reactions@amberpep You have blessed us as well! Teresa
@amberpep I love the phrase, “inch by inch anything’s a cinch.” I'll keep that in mind during my next major change in life! Teresa
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