~ Difficult transition with move, loss of dog, kitty ill ~

Posted by Barb @amberpep, May 27, 2017

Well, as several of you know I moved to VA from MD about 18 months ago. I didn't want to make the move and it took me 5 years to decide to do it. Two of my three kids harassed me to move down near them, "since I'm getting older." I had my own condo in MD, am quite healthy and active, and had just gotten a divorce after a 40 year marriage ..... I felt oh so relieved when I moved into my condo ..... "it was mine" and I felt, safe and comfy - I savored it. After years of my kids wanting me to move down here (to VA), I finally made the move, but it has been a very difficult transition ..... when I got here, I had to have my teeth extracted as I need dentures (still don't have the teeth yet), I had to have my sweet dog, Molly, put down (Cavalier, King Charles Spaniel) due to congestive heart failure, my tenant in my condo is moving and it is now up for sale 🙁 , and just last week I took my kitty to the Vet. and he is doing a whole panel of blood work .... diabetes, heart, kidneys, thyroid, etc. She's 11. I have been on a waiting list for a first floor apartment down closer to my girls for about 6 months now ... it's a low income apartment. I have to go up Tuesday to check my condo with the Realtor to see if everything is OK in order to give my tenant her security deposit back ...... I don't look forward to that at all. I did find a church, but it's 1-1/2 hrs. away. It will be closer once I move to the apartments, that is IF I ever move there. If it had not cost me so much to move down here, at this point I would move back, but I'm still paying all that off through a freedom debt company.
Thanks for listening, abby (the whiner)

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Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | May 28, 2017

@amberpep Thanks for checking in with us, Abby. I've been thinking about you. I hope that all goes well for you next Tuesday. Teresa

Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Jun 2, 2017

@amberpep Hi Abby: I hope that your meeting with the realtor on Tuesday went well. Teresa

Barb | @amberpep | Jun 2, 2017

Thank you Teresa for thinking of me.
abby

Barb | @amberpep | Jun 23, 2017

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Hi to everyone. Just checking in to see how you all are doing and to give you a brief update. I don't come here very often anymore because it seems that all the "action" is with the folks with chronic pain. I can sure understand that ..... that can be both debilitating and mentally draining .... I feel for them.
I sold my condo - settlement is July 14 - of course I have to pay $11,000 to do this, but at least I'll be rid of it. Then the temptation will be totally gone to move back. I'm waiting to hear at the other low-income apartments as to whether I can get in or not. No need to pack up now as I have to give my landlady here 2 months notice. I'd like to call the other apartment folks and see what they know so far, but I just don't have the energy. I'm dealing, once again, with IBS, and ice pick headaches, and I know that's why. Still don't have my teeth, so it's all soft and mashed up foods ...... I eat a lot of Cream of Wheat. My oldest daughter and her family are now on vacation #3! They sure do take good advantage of the summer. They always go with friends .... this time there are 10 of them. I couldn't stand that .... too much noise ..... 4 adults and 6 kids. She invited me to go but I don't like "group vacations." I like quiet peaceful ones, and I guess I'm too independent, I like to be able to do what I want to do whether it's go for a hike, whitewater rafting, or just sit and read a book.
That's about it ..... I'm still here ..... rarely leaving this place ..... but, life is what it is.
abby

Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Jun 26, 2017

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@amberprep Thanks for checking in with us, you have been on my mind. I was out of town for a few days and I was just going to send you a message. I can understand your relief with having your condo sold. I am sorry to hear that your IBS and headaches are flaring up, that must be very uncomfortable. Is there something that relieves the symptoms? Teresa

Barb | @amberpep | Jun 27, 2017

Thank you so much Teresa for writing to me. At times I feel like I'm living in the land of no-one - not just with you all, but generally. Still have not heard from either of the low-income apartment places and I'm pretty bummed out about that. With everything that's happened since I got here, and the way everything has turned out, I do think I made a mistake. I love my kids, but I cannot sit alone in this place, watching myself getting fatter, sleeping, reading books. No sense packing up much as I have to give my landlady 2 months notice before I move. My Psychiatrist has me back on Lamictal again. With that I have to take Propanalol because the Lamictal gives me what they call "essential tremors." My daughter is having a houseful on July 4 .... wow, she sure has energy. There will be at least 20 people there, plus 7 kids. I'm not going .... I don't like big crowds of loud people, and some of them are really loud when they get a few beers under their belt - rowdy is a good word for it. I imagine Jen is disappointed, but it is what it is. I'm doing things for me now, not to please everyone else.
Again Teresa, thank you so much for thinking of me ..... that really felt good. It's been a long 2 years down here.
abby

Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Jun 27, 2017

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@amberpep Abby, my heart goes out to you - you are in a difficult place - no doubt about that. If I lived closer I would love to sit down and have a visit - but I guess we are limited to cyberspace for now. Please know that we all appreciate your honesty and thoughtfulness as you share yourself with us on Mayo Connect! Can you think of one special thing you might do the 4th to make it a big special? Teresa

Barb | @amberpep | Jun 27, 2017

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Not really I guess .... I hate fireworks. I was forced to go to them when I was little and the loud sounds hurt my ears .... it still does. My condo closing is July14, which I'm very ambivalent about. I knew I had to sell it if I was not going back, but feeling as I do down here, I should have stayed in my cozy little nest.
abby

Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Jun 28, 2017

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@amberpep Hi Abby: With major changes (like selling your condo) there will undoubtedly be feelings of ambivalence, I get that. Regarding the 4th of July and doing something you might enjoy - have you considered going to a movie or perhaps taking a walk in a park? Teresa

Barb | @amberpep | Jun 28, 2017

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Thanks Teresa for the encouragement. I did have some wonderful news today (thank you Lord). I was accepted in the low-income apartments that I really wanted to get into .... first floor, 3 BR, 2 BA, K, L/DR combo, and a patio. And all the windows face the huge mountains around here. Lots of light. I could have moved in now, but I paid for the first month and the deposit so they would hold it for me. Now I've gotta' pack like mad, but it won't be nearly as bad as when I moved from my condo. I'm very organized when it comes to things like this. It helps when it comes to letting my condo go......at least I think it will. I probably won't leave the house on the 4th. I'm not one to go out alone at night. I am so hoping that I will be happier in Staunton than here in Harrisonburg.
abby