@nycmusic, I agree. If I went cold turkey on this WholeFoodsPlantBased Lifestyle, I would be sure to have cravings and obsess (and grieve 😊) about what I can't have.
So, I allow myself to have that 1 coffee/day with cream, that small piece of chocolate when I put out goodies for my company, eat whatever my host cooked when I'm lucky enough to be invited out, choose whatever looks delicious on the menu on the rare occasion to be out at a resaurant. It makes the whole change doable when I don't become too rigid and punish myself, but treat myself with respect and kindness.