@crabby55 tonight my husband complained of a headache and being chilled. I gave him a couple Tylenol and a heated blanket and took his temperature, which was normal. Asked what else I could do. He said nothing and fell asleep. So I took a candlelight bubble bath, listened to relaxing music, drank flavored water out of a wine glass (just for fun). I totally relaxed. When I got out, he was feeling better. Then I nicely told him that the day he comes home from treatments that it’s probably not a good idea to go to the shop in 32 degree weather with the shop door opened and stand on a cold cement floor lifting heavy tractor tires and whatever else he was doing. Kinda had to treat him like a child. But because of your comments, I took care of myself first so I wouldn’t get angry or be enabling him. I hope to keep it up. Thank you again for sharing.