@kartwk
Connecting with an attorney who specializes in Elder Law (doesn't mean they don't do other types of work) was the wisest move I could have made when I first came to terms with my husband's "forgetfulness," which has since been formally diagnosed as vascular dementia. The attorney gave me a long laundry list of tasks I needed to do to get our affairs in order, including powers of attorney, naming an estate administrator--not my husband, were I to die first, living wills, etc. etc. It took me weeks to collect all the information she needed (bank accounts, credit cards, insurance policies, etc., but then she put it all together and the immense relief I felt was incredibly comforting. All that stuff is no fun to deal with, but for those of you who haven't done it yet, hop on the horse and do it. You just don't know what is around the corner, and some paperwork will need to be signed while a spouse still has capacity.