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H. has a Wellness Check-up: How can I talk to his doctor?

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Great idea! Thanks. I agree, what he doesn't know may just help him. Docs specializing in geriatrics are far and few between. Would have to go about 55 miles away which is too far.

I have to watch. The last few days we have been getting calls from a software company that provides protection for computers and ignoring them because, well no reason. Today he answered one and the guy told him someone was trying to open a business account with them and it would cost $700 and they were "checking into it". He started asking all kinds of questions and kept repeating the same questions over and over. Things like who else has your password, do your children have it, does your wife have it, and on and on. Thank heavens the only answer the scammers got was "No" which is why they kept asking more and more questions "they needed to follow up the problem with the account." I told H to HANG UP immediately.

I then contacted the company directly, with H there, and inquired about the call we had received. Yep, the phone call was a scam, phishing for info. The software company rep said that they never phone you but contact you through computer.

I reminded H that he and I never should answer the phone unless we know who it is. The calls from that company, which occurred over the week, never left a message.

It is easy, just seeing that with H how these scammers can get information from the elderly, heck anyone. I worry that someone is going to catch him on a day he isn't as sharp and he is going to give out information he shouldn't.

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@kartwk , yes, things can happen you weren’t expecting even with people you think would know better. My dad, who had been diagnosed, went for a drive with a family member who he asked to take him to a new bank where he opened a new checking and savings account in his sole name! Without my mom as joint owner and without pay on death provision! Omg….took us a while to get that straight. My mom was livid.

Be careful of him going out and about with the ability to make those arrangements. That’s why getting legal advice is important. I’d document the ways in which he is not competent to mange his own affairs. Sometimes that’s quite evident, even without a doctor’s diagnosis.