Heading 2 hours away to my son and family. My sister loves to go there and we lay the baby on the couch next to her with one of us on the other side. She never tries to lift him to carry him etc. it works great and she tells people how cute he is and that he likes her. The baby just lays there but the 2 year old grandson loves to crawl up next to her and show her things. She is just one of the family and everyone gladly makes the appropriate allowances for her. It's a day off for me , smile!