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@IndianaScott, Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. It helped me to deal with the loss of my Tom. We always told each other I will love forever and ever and you are so right, the love goes on and on – as does the pain. It’s only been 2 ½ weeks but I feel like he has been gone forever. I don’t want to talk to anyone or see anyone and I know that is not good. My friends keep calling and inviting me to dinner and I always back out at the last minute because I can’t handle small talk yet. In fact, I can’t handle any kind of talk yet. I start with grief counseling on Monday – was supposed to start today but just couldn’t make it out of the house. I admire you for going on with your family. My only child lives 3000 miles from me and once she left to go home, the hard facts of life really hit me. You are/have been an inspiration for me since i started with this group. I wish you good health, and in the middle of all this grief, some happiness.

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Hi @tntredhead Good to hear from you. My thoughts are with you each and every hour of every day, even if from afar! I hear you on the ‘small talk’ front! Even at this point there are just a few folks I am comfortable with socially and far more who I am not yet. That may change…we shall see! I say give yourself time.

What I realized, which helped me to venture out, was I had two people I definitely needed to thank for their support during my wife’s years of sickness. These two in particular went over and above in their support. One for my wife and one for me. I felt in my heart, no matter how difficult the visits would be, I had to get to them to say my thanks. Emotional for sure, but I also told myself I was doing it in part because if I didn’t say those ‘thank you’s’ my wife would have been really, really, REALLY mad with me 🙂

Slowly I have been able to add a few folks to this circle, but totally at my own pace. Grief is as individualized as your love — so follow your heart I might suggest.

Be strong and know many are sending positive energy your way!

Peace and strength!

@tntredhead Thank you for your post. I have been thinking about you. Keep sharing with us as you are able! Teresa