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Survivors of toxic relationship with a Narcissist: Let's Connect
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I see this thread is over a year old and I am in such a desperate need of talking to others who have been in a relationship with a narcissist. I can't say I'm a survivor yet because I'm still begging and pleading for him to talk to me because as normal I'm on the silent treatment probably til mid week as always . I can't keep living like this because I'm not even living anymore and havent for years. I feel so pathetic and just cannot believe that I havent the slightest clue on what to do or how to live day to day with out his f____ bulls$*t!!! Why am I begging him to tear me down more? Why can't I just be done with him. It's sickening to me and I am desperate to talk to someone who understands what I'm going thru right now. I can't think of a word that describes the level of distress I'm in right now.. please point me in the right direction for a support group anything that will help me help myself out of this daily f--ing turmoil !! Sorry about the cursing , I just ugghh!!! Uggh ugh . I can't do this by myself
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@tlstark08 I suggest you get on YouTube and look up Dr. Ramani and listen to her videos about narcissists. She is a psychologist with a vast amount of knowledge on exactly what you are describing. My father was NPD and I have been in relationships (if you want to call it that) with narcissists. It is difficult to get away from them. It is difficult to realize that they are not who they led you to believe they are and the drive to try and get back to the point it started is impossible and devastating. These folks are charming and manipulative. They are able to read people and say and do what wonderful things in the beginning...this breaks and the mask starts to crack. There is something called a "trauma bond." Dr. Ramani describes it well. I understand the pull of wanting to stay in the relationship, even when there is a part of me that knows it is emotionally abusive. You realize that talking to him is pointless and yet there is a part of you that really doesn't want to break away. It is a terrible place to be and I get it. It is a cycle. Give yourself some grace. Seriously, go watch and listen to Dr. Ramani. Be sure you are on her YouTube page. Reach out if you need.
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I’m Sheila I am searching for help as well. I just left a very abusive torturous marriage. He was a mean controlling narcissist he mentally abused me terribly. I’ve never encountered anything like this and I’m searching for help.
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@tlstark08 Welcome to Mayo Clinic Connect. Although this discussion was started in mid-2024, it continues to be active, the last post before yours was just last week!
May I suggest you take time to read through the posts by other members, and see what tools they have come up with to help them in their own situations?
Perhaps if you tell us a bit more about yourself, like how long have you been in this situation? Have you attempted any therapy for yourself or the both of you?
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