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Good for you for biting the bullet! I have been on the fence for a year.
During the interim, I incurred three meniscus tears, and I developed two cysts in my right knee. I also tore ligaments in my right foot from the wear-and-tear of being the heavy lifter at this stage in our lives. (My husband is immobile; and he has Alzheimer's, Lewy Body dementia, vascular dementia, and Parkinson's.) Surgery is out of the question for me unless I get full-time help, or put George into memory care.
At my age (77), we're not cut out to parent an elderyly two-year-old. I just ordered the following books to help me cope:
https://www.amazon.com/s
https://www.amazon.com/Making-Sense-Suffering-Peter-Kreeft/dp/1621648834/ref=sr_1_1
Blessings and love to you,
George's Wife
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@georgescraftjr I’m sorry for, and I see all of your sacrifices. It really sounds like you should be at a crossroads. You can only sacrifice so much of yourself before it’s just asking too much of you. I’m not at the point that you are, fortunately, but I believe that we have to put our ‘foot’ down at some point and say “I’ve given all I have, I don’t have any left to give. I will continue to love you, but I won’t ruin my own physical and mental health with your care.” You nailed it with not being cut out to parent an elderly 2 yr old.
Hang in there and take care of you. What I’ve heard and read before, we have to put on our oxygen masks first.