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Just put my husband in memory care facility and feel so much guilt, sadness and loneliness. It got too much for me with the no sleep and aggression and diapers that I thought I would go first. He seems to be adjusting and will see how long the money lasts then I guess Medicaid. So very much stress in what is supposed to be golden years!
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@pfg173 I’m so sorry. It must be so difficult, but a person has to do what they have to do for their own survival. You matter just as much as he does. Since you have to make all of the business decisions, then that also makes you in charge of your own well being. He can’t understand what you’re going through, so you have to handle it. I’m glad that you’ve advocated for yourself. Keep telling yourself that you matter, too.
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Good for you for biting the bullet! I have been on the fence for a year.
During the interim, I incurred three meniscus tears, and I developed two cysts in my right knee. I also tore ligaments in my right foot from the wear-and-tear of being the heavy lifter at this stage in our lives. (My husband is immobile; and he has Alzheimer's, Lewy Body dementia, vascular dementia, and Parkinson's.) Surgery is out of the question for me unless I get full-time help, or put George into memory care.
At my age (77), we're not cut out to parent an elderyly two-year-old. I just ordered the following books to help me cope:
https://www.amazon.com/s
https://www.amazon.com/Making-Sense-Suffering-Peter-Kreeft/dp/1621648834/ref=sr_1_1
Blessings and love to you,
George's Wife