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Thank you for the kind note. I don't enjoy cooking, but am an avid gardener. I belong to a garden club and, also, work in propagation for master gardeners. I have an acre lot that is pretty over planted, but it keeps me busy and provides a lot of exercise! When I worked, it was with kids with Autism and other behavioral issues. I have considered doing some volunteer work in that area. So, I am keeping busy. I have amazing friends, as well.
I also started seeing a therapist a couple of years before my husband passed. I would recommend that to anyone. She is an amazing support!
I lost my mom about 7 years ago. Still miss her, but the pain is really gone now and I am able to remember only what a wonderful, loving person she was. Memories of her support me now, as she did in life. Hang in there, time is on your side, too!

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@kathy26 Thanks, Kathy. I appreciate your support too. Yesterday wasn't a great day. I fear my husband's lequembe infusions aren't helping. Then I got a note from a former neighbor whose wife with dementia has taken a turn for the worse. That stirs up anxiety - that fear of the unknown. I love the fact you're out in nature, something I need to do. I need to walk, to get the weight off around my hips. I had thin hair anyway and then all this stress from living in boxes, in a rental, because we were forced out of our house, then my husband's MCI diagnosis at the same time, we had to move out, the first rental a disaster where I lost $ from moving out early - that house had 30 ant bait boxes on the first floor alone, really in my view inhabitable with more mold, but I had to cut the loss and moved back into a hotel. I did manage to get $2K back but lost over $10K. All while we're doing all this medical with my husband. It's been a lot of back and forth - and anxiety. Now, my hair is even thinner. So wig time. I wish I had a garden to go into. That's a great stress reliever. At this point, I just have to get to end of remodel in my own house, and move on with life, whatever it deals. But I'm trying to stay positive, and I'm glad you are okay, and have lots of friends. That's what I need to cultivate but so hard to do when in limbo, and up there in years.
I'm hanging in...thanks for your support.