@sdvilligan, these are such good questions to ask. I'm tagging a few fellow members who have had chemo and/or immunotherapy for bladder cancer or their partners have, like @treeman1942 @beebe @jaxfl @hmmm @jowilliams1 @moose63 @eddiesil @ljashton and others. They may have personal insights to share.

Of course, intimacy can mean many things from hand holding to intercourse. Like you said, intimacy may be redefined and different during and after treatment. As always, intimacy is about communication. Being open and honest about how you feel as things change and each of you adapt.

One should never assume their doctor or nurse will ask about sex or intimacy. Stacey, you were wise to bring up the issue of intimacy with the doctor. Would you be willing to share what you learned?