I was a happy, self-realized person, loving retirement (though it is boring, but in a good way), and then I noticed the changes in cognitive ability in my spouse with a 140 IQ. Instead of being a 'equal' she wasn't able to do much. I went into a sharp depression trying to figure it out and my life as I knew it was gone. The worst was the loss of the relationship, the connection, the love. We are use to losing people in our life, but not the 'slow [ever painful] goodbye.'

An experienced psychology nurse recommended, "Man's Search for Meaning" by Viktor Frankl. It wasn't what I expected. That book along with CBT has helped me come to grip with my path. I remember telling my children when they had a 'crisis,' growing up---'It's not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.' --Epictetus. Well, I use to say it, "In life, its not what happens to you, but how you handle what happens to you." My new job is to be a caregiver, which I'm getting good at, and live my dreams as much as possible. [Have to go, my puppy terrier just woke up to greet me.]