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H. has a Wellness Check-up: How can I talk to his doctor?
Caregivers | Last Active: Feb 26 6:25pm | Replies (29)Comment receiving replies
Yes, yes, yes. You are right on target with what I feel.
I do need to get power of attorney because this summer he gave away a lot of our stuff, table saw, other items because he didn't need them. He was giving this stuff to complete strangers!!! He even gave away our 2-stage snowblower which we have really needed this winter and I am lucky I got it and the other items back or they paid me for them.
His mind tells him, and me that since he feels he doesn't need them anymore he should give them away because they are not worth anything according to him. We are on a very fixed income. I got several hundred dollars for one item he was going to give away for free.
I watch when he is on his computer and phone during one of those times he was changing all his passwords because one time he was going to give someone his WHOLE SS#! I stepped in and stopped that because NO creditable bank, credit card, etc. asks for the whole number.
And he keeps saying and believing that his one daughter that lives 5 miles away is gonna come and help him/me out. That hasn't happened all the time we have been down here. What she is waiting for, and it upsets me to state it out loud, is for him to pass. Then she will get an interest, not in him, but what we have to see what she can get.
I am not being mean or nasty about her, but I posted before that she was actually in the hospital room with H (I had left for something to eat and didn't know she was around) and was trying to get him to sign a new will! Power of attorney would put a stop to that kind of nonsense and give me great peace of mind as he and I go through this together.
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Connecting with an attorney who specializes in Elder Law (doesn't mean they don't do other types of work) was the wisest move I could have made when I first came to terms with my husband's "forgetfulness," which has since been formally diagnosed as vascular dementia. The attorney gave me a long laundry list of tasks I needed to do to get our affairs in order, including powers of attorney, naming an estate administrator--not my husband, were I to die first, living wills, etc. etc. It took me weeks to collect all the information she needed (bank accounts, credit cards, insurance policies, etc., but then she put it all together and the immense relief I felt was incredibly comforting. All that stuff is no fun to deal with, but for those of you who haven't done it yet, hop on the horse and do it. You just don't know what is around the corner, and some paperwork will need to be signed while a spouse still has capacity.