@hopeful33250, it really is difficult for family too. I had no idea how concerned they were until they did so much for me at Christmas, the best part our dinner was totally prepared my son, daughter and her fiance. My son has worked in prestigious restaurants (he waited tables in the Beverly Hills Hotel for quite a while when he first moved to CA) both in the kitchen and as a waiter so he somehow learned how to cook really well along the way, which is wonderful for me! He was the head chef and my daughter and future son-in-law were the sous chefs. 😉
JK

Yes I have- she is a Nurse, and understanding- but I told her I still don't take that for granted, and deeply appreciate what she does above and beyond.JJAMES

<br><br><br><br><br>Ha ha ha! My guy is funny about other people giving him a massage - only I <br>can. But he will do the foot massages. They are typically Asian people with <br>knowledge of pressure points in the foot that help so many other organs in the <br>body without you even knowing it. He says it helps his sciatic issues. Annnnd, <br>they message you up to your knees and sometimes throw in a shoulder massage. It <br>is a great gift!<br> <br><br>

<br><br><br><br><br>That is awesome! Lucky you to be on the receiving end of <br>delishiousness!<br> <br><br>

<br><br><br><br><br>Hi John. Feelings of guilt about one's caretakers are quite normal to those <br>with chronic illness. You are doing good by expressing gratitude. When it is <br>genuine, they 'get it'. Don't forget, they have the view from the outside of <br>you, they can see you have slowed down, or that things have become increasingly <br>difficult for you to achieve. Most people understand.  ( I am <br>excluding that small margin of folks who are thinking how they didn't sign up <br>for this.)<br> <br><br>

Thanks @windwalker, you have added a good perspective to our discussion on being on the receiving-end of care. Expressing gratitude is an important exercise, if you will, to the one who expresses the gratitude and is always appreciated by the one who receives it. Teresa

@windwalker You are making me want to try a foot massage! I have never heard of them up here in NH.
JK

@contentandwell Foot massages are also referred to as Reflexology. You might be able to find one in your area if you goggle that term. Teresa

<br><br><br><br><br>JK, Google it, you may find a source nearby. If you are interested, you can <br>also Google 'pressure points in the foot' and learn more about how beneficial a <br>foot massage is.<br> <br><br>

@windwalker

Foot massage sounds like torture! I don't want anyone to touch my feet, thanks to peripheral neuropathy, but I hope that when I get the spinal cord stimulator implant, all of that will change.

Jim