Thinkit, while I enjoy a positive attitude like you have and hopefully I have, not having read all your posts, I wonder if you had a large or small stroke. With some of us, we will NEVER be BETTER than we were, physically. That is just not possible. I may become a better person, emotionally, spiritually..and if that's what you mean, I sure do agree.

Looking at this realistically, many of us are disabled. Some of us have even lost the ability to correct our balance. If we stumble, we go down. When we are in public, well me anyway, I appear as though I've had one too many, lol.

This may just be me and I mean this personally and as my take, but when people would, God bless them, say things like...you will be better than before...it strikes me as saccharine and unrealistic. Actually somewhat irritating as I continue to spill my drinks, stumble and fall, drag my left leg when tired, and my hair looks like crap because my left hand is so dysfunctional it would rather wreck my hair than subdue it. Can't clasp a barrette, can't help my right hand get the job done.

If I am being silly or overly sensitive, I don't mind being told. Surely, I don't want to discourage anyone from encouraging, but, again, just speaking for myself here, when I am told that type thing, that I will be BETTER, I feel as though the bewildering event I experienced and am still experiencing is being downplayed and I am being placated instead of more realistic acceptance of the new me. When people respond with honest acceptance of where I'm at now, I find that somewhat consoling and satisfying.

Forgive my many words, but struggling to explain why I object to your kind, but maybe incorrect thought or approach to encouraging stroke survivors. Maybe I'm just messed and wrong headed. Please feel free to respond....and correct me. Still trying so hard to understand the new me.