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Dealing with a Spouse with a “Mild Cognitive Impairment”
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@becsbuddy I am 85, married for 65 yrs to Chuck, 85.
Chuck has early stage of dementia.
We get along pretty good but I am getting tired.
With that comes impatience, anger,
And so many other emotions. I feel so guilty when I loose my temper and raise my voice which makes him feel bad. Sometimes he is arguementitive.
The mind works in mysterious ways on a normal day but with dementia, the one with dementia drives the caregiver crazy which is a different kind of mind dysfunction. That’s where I am right now. I cry too much, I need my alone time. Sometimes I don’t want to have to move—-not a muscle. On the other hand, I know there are so many in a worse situation than I. I also feel guilty for not being a stronger wife and partner. I think Chuck would do a better job if it were the other way around. I need some suggestions.
I am so tired.
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@dida84
No useful suggestions, just keep working on that alone time. I rarely get time alone, so it's precious to me. I did find a respite daycare facility in town I've used once and will use again.
My husband's diagnosis was MCI in 2024, now it has progressed to frontotemporal dementia.
Some days I am Gung ho and others, I just want to be left alone with my easy chair and the TV remote.
So, I feel for you and sending virtual hugs.
All the best. 🫂
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@dida84 i understand your concern. Being a caregiver is stressfull and there are times when we do not feel qualified for this task. Even if it is your husband. We are human and have emotions and ferlings that go along with caregiving. Unfortunatly, we even have feelings of resentment, if we are honest. It isnt their fault and not your fault. It is life and we do the best we can. It is a job that can be draining, confusing, and wear on your entire being.