Husband not listening to me

That's a tough one, Sipka and you have my support, whatever the solution turns out to be. Maybe a medical person who understands his reactions to the radiation could talk to him? Does his cancer treatment provider belong to a hospital or cancer center offering patient services? I know mine offered to arrange transportation from a half-way point for me.
I'm a bit like your husband and would prefer to drive myself to the doctor, etc. which is two hours away, but I've come to realize that with my current health, that isn't realistic. Trips to the oncologist, CT scans, etc. include not only my very patient husband who reads or listens to music to avoid stressing me with long conversations enroute but our two dogs as well, because we can't leave them home by themselves for over six hours. If the trip gets very stressful, we may pick up some Starbucks along with two pup cups to keep everyone going!

hi @sipka - does your husband mean he feels stressed during the drive or at the appointment itself? if it's the drive, there might be a closer cancer center that could administer the treatment ordered by his oncologist. (my mom did that - she lived in a rural area with a small cancer center that could do her labs/infusions - but she came to Seattle to see a specialist.) if it's you going with him to the hospital, maybe you could stay overnight and you could do the distance driving, but he could go to his appointments on his own. best of luck - I've been a caretaker and am now a patient. it's tough for everyone in the family. hugs!

If it's the appointment he's concerned about, suggest that you'd like to go shopping at some stores that aren't available near your home.

I'm sorry to hear this. I do sympathize with you. It feels like you have the best intention for his safety. Perhaps give it a try again and try to be a silent companion. Be more in tune with his preferences (his music, his topics of interest and avoid topics that will crowd his mind) . Try to do your own activity during the ride but be ready to converse when he opens a communication. I am no therapist but make the trip about things that take his mind off this stressful life journey. Revisiting fun memories about family events or vacations etc... We have been faced similar challenges in finding the best way to connect with loved ones struggling with this illness. Wishing you find a common ground to express love and care that is most comfortable.