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My wife is aware that she has "memory" issues, but seems oblivious to her other cognitive deficits (mainly executive functioning). She also seems to think that I am unaware of her memory loss. She is easily antagonized and irritated and hyperemotional. Reason and logic are ineffective with her. I try to go along to get along. She often rants at me (things not true) and I mostly ignore it and it eventually peters out. She can also be sweet and loving. Currently I'm having more good days than bad nights. I do my best to stay on an even keel and not engage when she gets a bit out of control. Her premorbid personality was on the confrontational side, so this behavior does not surprise me, though it is hard to accept. I understand she did not choose to have this horrible condition and cannot help herself and I am responsible for both of us. She has a sister who is willing to help (my wife has no children), but she (wife) will not go to her sister's home (100 miles away) to give me respite, but her sister will come here for a few days. We're all trying to survive a disease that has no good options at this time. Hugs all 🤗🤗🤗.

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So much of what you wrote at the beginning is my story, except my husband does not admit that he has anything wrong. Even though multiple doctors have spoken plainly about his condition- he will not talk to me or anyone about it.

Today I am having one of those days and I just want to be alone. He asked me why I did not smile anymore and I did not have the heart to tell him. He is driving me to distraction, he blames me for not listening to him, and then watches TV most of the day.

I understand why - his brain does not work right and he also has osteoporosis and bad balance. He could give up - but he has not. I admire him for that, but at the same time I am so tired of biting my tongue, sweating in my house because he is always cold, handling all the money, folding laundry and putting it away, and doing all the driving. Oh- and working full time.
I pray every night that he will find a good friend that can just be a friend.
I am a homebody and he wants to leave the house every chance he gets.
I am just so darn tired…

So everyone- hang in there!,