hi its me the one with a mean sister, the other day I called to see if she would listen to me, she is 5 yrs older then me, she said I have no sister and no family anymore, I did't do what she is saying I did, I thought that she new me better then that, I would go take a lie det, test to prove it, but where do you go for that? I love my sister and she is my family, I have 3 neices and a brother in law but everyone does what she says, they are afraid of her and what she will do. I wish she would just listen to me , and see how wrong she is

@misdeejon42, I can see that your emotional burden continues, and I am sorry to hear that you continue to endure this pain. As an 'outsider' I am going to guess that your sis is not wanting to change. And I have no words to offer, but I will put both you and your sister in my prayers for both of your needs.
How are you doing with your own medical issues? Are you beginning to feel physical improvement?
I'm sending you a hug, I hope it provides some comfort.
Rosemary

@misdeejon42 - "Loving" your sister, and "Liking" her are two different things. Do the math...You are 75, and your five years older sister is 75 + 5 = 80. It is not likely that "Sister Dearest" will be changing after 80-years.

I am vintage 1941, and you are a year behind me. Recognize that the sand in the hourglass is running out for you. Your sister likely will not become the loving, supportive sister you want her to be, only the sister she is, and likely will remain. So quit giving her access to your emotions with your hope that she will miraculously become a “Nice Sister.” It will not likely be happening.

Expand your support system beyond just your family, who seem to be giving you little to no emotional nurturing or support. If you are a churchgoer, seek out and join one of the various social and support groups most churches have available. On a secular-basis, there may be a Senior Center where you live, go there and get involved.

Love your unlikeable family and extended family, send them Christmas, Birthday, Graduation, Wedding, et al cards, keep in touch, but recognize that that “Family Well” is a dry hole. You take the personal actions necessary to make a concerted personal effort to develop and grow a “New Family Of Friends & Acquaintances.” People who do not bring unhappiness and deliver meanness and emotional pain to you.

Good Luck. Make this 4th Of July @misdeejon42’s Declaration Of Independence Day… Put pain and maltreatment in your rearview mirror, and, thereby, have a great second half of 2017. ☺

Thank you for your wise words, I have done that, I know in my heart she will never change, as much as I want her to, She finally gave me back my painting and sd we are no longer family, it hurts but nothing I can do about it, she is missing me and my love for her, but thank you again.dottie

Hi I ust got out of the hospital, and mite have to go back, seeing the dr tomorrow, I have a bad infection in my tummy, and a lot of other problems, thank you for your kind words. dottie

@misdeejon42 (dottie) - Which of the three Mayo Clinic Hospital/Treatment areas (MCR, MCP or MCF) are you being treated by/live closet to?

@misdeejon42 Dottie: I'm so sorry to hear of your hospitalization for the infection. Are you feeling better? Teresa

none of the mayo clinic I live in va and being treated by the sentra hospital, thank you for asking dottie

@misdeejon42, I hope that you will be feeling better soon.
Hugs and prayer,
Rosemary