People with narcissistic personality disorder are a bit different than narcissistic people. That is not to say that narcissism is easier to deal with. We all have a bit of it, but people with NPD or those with antisocial personality's can be dangerous. They are hard to spot. They are charming, and the best liars I have ever seen. I recommend listening to Dr. Ramani on YouTube. I had a family member diagnosed with NPD and it is painful to realize a person you loved and trusted is someone that you never really knew. On the other side, a lot of people with these traits have trauma in their childhoods. The narcissism seems to have become a survival skill for them, hence the lack of empathy, etc. It is a strange and devastating disorder for anyone on the receiving end of them and takes time to start recovery from a relationship. The last person I had a relationship with, was a wolf in sheep's clothing and I was devastated when it all blew up and their mask fell off, but it is possible to start recovering from it. The trauma bond is still in me, but I see it now and can remind myself that the person I thought I knew, never existed.