@mailtodana66 I do not know where you live, but there are shelters that can hide you from him. I hate to say it, but it only gets worse and he sounds like a psychopath. I know there are resources here, where I live that take women and men in and help them get away. Do not allow him to know that you are planning anything, either. If he is as he sounds, he probably monitors your phone as well. Have you looked into any shelters that have housing for domestic violence victims?

@mailtodana66 My childhood was horrible, due to a malignant narcissistic Mom, and a narcissistic Dad, who was spoiled by his Mom, for many years. I lived in the basement, was considered the black sheep, of the family. I was treated like a slave for 15 years, where i was beaten by both of my parents! My 2 brothers and 2 sisters shared a room each. They were treated like normal by my parents. My parents paid for my younger brother’s education, and never would give me a penny for a college education. My brother is an extremely successful attorney! In my senior year, in high school, my Dad threw me down the basement steps, onto the cold, cement floor, in a fit of rage, because my Mom was nagging him! I was hurt bad! My leg was twisted a bit, and my knee was hurting badly, where it swelled up like a balloon! I could hardly move, dealing with the pain. I cried out ‘help’, and my Mom and Dad started arguing with each other! Neither one of them would help me, or take me to hospital emergency room. After a couple hours, where I was suffering in excruciating pain, my younger sister called my married older sister, and asked her to come over and take me to the E.R. My sister came right away. She helped me hobble up the basement stairs, into the car! My parents would not help her get me up the steps and into the car. Instead, they both yelled at us, and told me and my sister that they’d kill us, if we ever told Doctor’s or ER nurses that my Dad had beat me up & threw me down the basement steps! I never returned home after that! I was on crutches for 6 months, and have had daily knee pain, ever since! I stayed with my sister for a few years, and lived with a Christian family, helping out with chores etc., during my college years! I put myself through college, working 3 part time jobs during the school year, and full time during the summers, working on the railroad! I had a very successful business career, working for a world manufacturer, and I had a good family life! I paid for my only child to get a college education, in a medical, professional field, and she graduated Magna Cum Laude! I am now nearly 80, with many health problems, but I am happy that I had gotten out of the ‘lair’ of a malignant narcissist, and have had a good life, until just recently!