Depression and over-analyzing how I feel: I'm feeling invisible

Posted by indogirl @indogirl, Dec 20, 2025

Would like to be reached out to regarding my depression and over analyzing how I feel and what to expect. I'm feeling invisible. Thanks

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HI,, MY NAME IS CATHY
LIKE YOU I SUFFER FROM DEPRESSION AND ANXCIOUS FEELINGS OF WHO TO TRUST,, SO TODAY I AM WILLING TO START WITH THE MAYO CLINIC SUPPORT GROUPS;; I AM 68 YEAR OLD MOM DIVIDCED AND AM TAKING 1MG OF KLONOPIN FOR 30 YEARS;; I'VE BEEN STRUGGLING TO GET OFF OF KLONOPIN,, BECAUSE I FEEL IT IS JUST INCREASING MY DEPRESSION...
IM PROBABLY A LOT OLDER THAN YOU AND CAN HONESTLY SAY I HAVE GOOD DAY'S AND BAD DAY'S;; BUT I REFUSE TO GIVE UP,, WE ALL HAVE PROBLEMS BUT I ALSO BELIEVE THEIR ARE SOLUTIONS TO DIFFICULT TIMES,, THEIR IS ALWAY'S A RAY OF LIGHT EVEN I THE DARKEST OF TIMES... SO I SEND YOU WARM WISHES AND HOPES OF A WELL DESERVED RECOVERY. TAKE ONE STEP AT A TIME..☯️

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HI,, MY NAME IS CATHY
LIKE YOU I SUFFER FROM DEPRESSION AND ANXCIOUS FEELINGS OF WHO TO TRUST,, SO TODAY I AM WILLING TO START WITH THE MAYO CLINIC SUPPORT GROUPS;; I AM 68 YEAR OLD MOM DIVIDCED AND AM TAKING 1MG OF KLONOPIN FOR 30 YEARS;; I'VE BEEN STRUGGLING TO GET OFF OF KLONOPIN,, BECAUSE I FEEL IT IS JUST INCREASING MY DEPRESSION...
IM PROBABLY A LOT OLDER THAN YOU AND CAN HONESTLY SAY I HAVE GOOD DAY'S AND BAD DAY'S;; BUT I REFUSE TO GIVE UP,, WE ALL HAVE PROBLEMS BUT I ALSO BELIEVE THEIR ARE SOLUTIONS TO DIFFICULT TIMES,, THEIR IS ALWAY'S A RAY OF LIGHT EVEN I THE DARKEST OF TIMES... SO I SEND YOU WARM WISHES AND HOPES OF A WELL DESERVED RECOVERY. TAKE ONE STEP AT A TIME..☯️

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@cathyz57, welcome. If you would like to join a discussion about tapering off Klonopin (clonazepam), see this discussion:

- How to get off of Clonazepam Safely?https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/how-to-get-off-of-clonazepam-safely/

And many others: https://connect.mayoclinic.org/search/discussions/

Your message of never giving up offers hope. Finding solutions in your dark moments can be challenging. What first step helps you?

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Profile picture for rashida @rashida

@indogirl you definitely are not alone - there are several of us right here dealing with depression. Like you, I have been functioning with it for many years and only now, at age 79, finally asked my doctor for medication and a referral for counselling because I couldn’t handle it any more. I too have generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) - so I can relate to what you are going through.

On this page, you will be heard - and you will not invisible here either.

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@rashida I'm 68 and have been dealing with anhedonia where I just can't find joy in anything except for the few days a month I spend with my grandkids. I have 4 grand and 2 great grandkids. I stay in bed most of the time with my cat. I can't take antidepressants because they work the opposite for me. You are not alone !!! I don't have any answers other than the usual. I'm hoping to be able to find my way back to this page as I feel as invisible as you do. I hope the day goes easy on you
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Profile picture for hagberg @hagberg

@rashida I'm 68 and have been dealing with anhedonia where I just can't find joy in anything except for the few days a month I spend with my grandkids. I have 4 grand and 2 great grandkids. I stay in bed most of the time with my cat. I can't take antidepressants because they work the opposite for me. You are not alone !!! I don't have any answers other than the usual. I'm hoping to be able to find my way back to this page as I feel as invisible as you do. I hope the day goes easy on you
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@hagberg welcome and down the way you can figure how to navigate where you would like too get to. took me a while but i figured it out finally. and here there are so many helpful people to ask for help with about anything no matter how small or large a problem. just ask and i am still looking at getting into a couple other groups also. only issue with me is a time barrier to get past every day. need something just ask and watch your email for responses. enjoy the day.a dn have a blessed new year too.

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So sorry you feel alone, I have been feeling that way also. Try to reach out to friends that you trust and I will pray for you. I have been struggling with anxiety and depression since I developed neuropathy and am limited in what I can do. No more hiking, kayaking etc. My fear is that people will dismiss Me. Try to find an activity that you can do to make friends and be active. 🙏

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@hagberg welcome and down the way you can figure how to navigate where you would like too get to. took me a while but i figured it out finally. and here there are so many helpful people to ask for help with about anything no matter how small or large a problem. just ask and i am still looking at getting into a couple other groups also. only issue with me is a time barrier to get past every day. need something just ask and watch your email for responses. enjoy the day.a dn have a blessed new year too.

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Thank you so much. I never thought I would get to a place in my life where
I'd rather be in bed than out and about. I had a great Xmas but I'm glad
it's over. Now I just want to get going

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Profile picture for ann78 @ann78

So sorry you feel alone, I have been feeling that way also. Try to reach out to friends that you trust and I will pray for you. I have been struggling with anxiety and depression since I developed neuropathy and am limited in what I can do. No more hiking, kayaking etc. My fear is that people will dismiss Me. Try to find an activity that you can do to make friends and be active. 🙏

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@ann78
Thank you. It's just so hard to get going

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Profile picture for hagberg @hagberg

Thank you so much. I never thought I would get to a place in my life where
I'd rather be in bed than out and about. I had a great Xmas but I'm glad
it's over. Now I just want to get going

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@hagberg hello, ok every day they have this email they put out, its Mayo clinic connect Daily digest for whatever day it is . open the email and you will find groups and so many places you can click on for help of every kind.
mine is TBI group, traumatic brain injury group. every month they have a group meeting and lots of informative results and new people to meet, as to just staying in bed sounds really good , i cant because i have a daughter that i want to have in my future for many more years. anger, anxiety, depression and including 50 first dates.. been through it all. if you have a question just ask, even me. ill respond. so thats all folks. have a blessed evening.

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Thank you for reaching out, for help! You are not invisible now! It looks like several people have replied to you, with good, practical advice! Feeling alone and thinking maybe, that nobody cares, is such a rough place to be in! I’ve been down that road, and it is full of potholes! If you are a religious person, I would recommend discussing your feelings with a clergy member that you trust. If you are not comfortable with doing that or not a religious person, then, perhaps, talking to a trusted family member could help, or a close friend. Discussing your feelings of being invisible, like no one cares, with a trusted and caring physician, and/or medical provider would give you hope that a solution could be found to help you! Wishing you the best! Consider keeping us updated on this forum, because we do care about you, and your well-being!

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Profile picture for Scott R L @scottrl

So sorry you're feeling this way. This is a tough time of year for many people, for many reasons.

It's like playing a slot machine in a big casino; it seems like everyone's hitting a jackpot except you. I remember 30 years ago, my girlfriend dumped me two days before Christmas. "Happy Holidays, Loser!" -- at least it felt that way.

After my stroke seven years ago, I was shocked when I would go out and see a familiar face -- and they didn't acknowledge me. They didn't see Scott; they saw Old Disabled Man and looked away.

I know that being aware that others are unhappy is cold comfort. If you break a leg, knowing that others have broken legs doesn't make your own hurt any less.

One thing I learned from this site: Helping others can help you. Offering supportive words to others, even complete strangers, feels good. Try it. It's easy, it's safe, and it's a Good Thing. One way to become visible is to be a light to people who are in an even darker place. Don't over-think it, just try it.

Here's a video from my YouTube channel about this (completely non-professional) experience:

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@scottrlThank you Scott. Today is Jan 1 so Happy New year to you. I had planned to start a new routine today but my excuse is that I didn't get any sleep last night. I'm sorry you had a stroke and I'm happy you're learning to live with it. My husband passed 2007 and I'm just now realizing that I am going to have to take repairs into my own hands. That's what I'll be up to this year .

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