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I am bisexual and went through radiation, brachytherapy and 18 months of ADT. I came off the hormone treatment in October and while I can now achieve erections, they are absolutely NOT what they used to be. I have also lost the ability to ejaculate. Before my diagnosis and treatment I was extremely sexually active. Now I am no longer willing to engage in relations with either sex. Cum was a big turn-on for me in different ways and no longer being able to produce it myself is devastating. I don't take ED meds because I don't see the point. I feel alot of shame and embarrassment. At this point I am just trying to accept that sex will never again be a part of my life.
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@mouser26 it is a huge change in our lives that is difficult to accept! It helps to chat with someone who understands!
@mouser26 thank you for your posting and your honesty! I had RP 3 months ago and the experience has left me feeling ashamed too! All our lives as men our penis was a big part of our lives. To see it now as only a small non functional body part it traumatic experience which brings strange feelings. It is helpful to talk with someone who understands!
@mouser26 you mention kormone therapy but did you have a prostatectomy as well? I had my prostatectomy in October 2025.
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I’m brining @scottbeammeup and @winkus back into this discussion.
@mouser26, it saddens me that shame is part of your experience with sex and the changes you experience after prostate cancer. The changes are hard to accept and making adaptations in order to find intimacy and joy again is a big hill to climb. Shame, guilt, blame are blockers that you might look into working on first. I, of course, don’t know you and I’m not a therapist, but I don’t think you have anything to be ashamed of.