Hi, and welcome to Connect, @anything4him I'm Scott, and I was my wife's caregiver for 14+ years as she fought her brain cancer. She was diagnosed at 47.

I know that each patient and caregiver is different, but here are a couple of changes I had to make to help myself as her caregiver.

I created what I called "30 Second Vacations" when I'd read one newspaper article, read a few lines in a book, etc. I realized several of my pre-caregiving chores had to go. Dust bunnies became household pets, I wore wrinkled shirts, meals became whatever my wife would eat and were simple and quick, and I turned my phone to silent. (Just a few of my changes.)

I also began a list of things I was not able to do as a caregiver that I promised I'd do in the future when I could. I know caregiving is tough, relentless, and all-consuming, but I also know my wife literally lived for my help. That eased my burden a ton.

Strength, Courage, & Peace