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Blaming and anger: How do you deal with it?

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@lueverson I'm sorry that you're experiencing those behaviors. My husband has MCI as well. It's so difficult to maneuver through this with them when they are in denial and convinced that there is nothing wrong, and sometimes we can even go along with pretending because they do have great time spans that seem normal, until they don't, again. We see these new behaviors that we have never seen from them, then they turn around and ask what do you see that makes you think I have dementia and we can't list them, because it would be for no good reason, it would just upset them, plus they would, again, deny, deny, deny.
So, there is no solid answer, unfortunately, for any of us. But at least we have each other to lean on for solace.
I do hope you seek help for your anxiety and sadness over his changes. You are important.

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My husband was just having several days a month of the strange behavior but now it is daily and hourly. I journal every day and that helps. Our normal is not normal but we get used to it so if I don't journal I forget what the days behaviors were. The behaviors are so bizarre that a person who is functioning normal cannot recall them properly. Years ago a schizophrenic person was talking to me and when I tried to recount the conversation to my husband, I couldn't because my mind was rational and remember something so irrational just was not possible. So anyway journaling helps. When I go back and read my journal I am amazed that his behaviors did not just shock me but it is my new normal.