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| I was raised to be a perfectionist and early on got very clear message that I better be the best in whatever I do or it is just not worth doing it at all. |
Me too! I'd get a 98 on a test and my dad would say "what happened to the other two points?" That led me to, in high school and college, only take classes where I knew I could get A's.
Fortunately, I learned the concept of "good enough" and now pursue anything that interests me regardless of whether I'm good at it or not. But I do fully understand the perfectionist messaging. I do sometimes wish I were young again and back in college and could pursue some more challenging subjects vs. just going for grades.
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Yes, *sigh, it effects person on many levels. When I came to the USA I spoke some English but was so ashamed that I did not speak it well enough for my standards (which were subconsciously parental standards) that I refused to communicate at all : (((. My poor husband had to "speak for me" in every possible situation like private interpreter until I became brave enough to actually communicate with people. I truly admire my husband's patience ha ha. To this day I "hate my English" and avoid communication - I know that I sound chatty here since I LOVE to talk with people but I look over every post 20 times and still there are mistakes that bother me. XP