Have you told your Dr. that you are feeling like this? Please do, and get some medication and help. It is especially frustrating before they admit it; you are spinning your wheels and as for me, I felt that as far as he was concerned everything I said or did was wrong.
It will get better, eventually he will have to admit he has a problem, or other family or friends will persuade him. I feel for you, and please, please take care of yourself. I will say a prayer for you,
God bless you in this time of sadness, I have been there!

@lueverson, I agree with @nancindancin. Please share your situation with your doctor and make sure you have some support for you. They may have recommendations.

Dealing with anger and denial is something that is often discussed in the group. It's common as this list of discussions shows: https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/caregivers-dementia/

@murkywaters, just shared a similar situation a few days ago here:
- Blaming and anger: How do you deal with it?https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/blaming-and-anger/

I moved your post so you can connect with others talking about blaming, anger and denial.

@lueverson I'm sorry that you're experiencing those behaviors. My husband has MCI as well. It's so difficult to maneuver through this with them when they are in denial and convinced that there is nothing wrong, and sometimes we can even go along with pretending because they do have great time spans that seem normal, until they don't, again. We see these new behaviors that we have never seen from them, then they turn around and ask what do you see that makes you think I have dementia and we can't list them, because it would be for no good reason, it would just upset them, plus they would, again, deny, deny, deny.
So, there is no solid answer, unfortunately, for any of us. But at least we have each other to lean on for solace.
I do hope you seek help for your anxiety and sadness over his changes. You are important.

@lueverson , It is imperative to get help for yourself. Professionals can best determine what treatment you need. I will add that I understand the frustration of dealing with a person who has dementia and who is uncivil towards you in the home.

You describe your husband’s cognitive decline as mild……please get a legal consultation to learn your rights and responsibilities. As your husband’s condition progresses, it will only get more frustrating and demanding. After what I have experienced with caregiving family members who have dementia in the home……I highly encourage lots of outside help or placement in a facility if that level of care is warranted.

Most people can’t imagine this care 24/7. Even for someone who doesn’t have depression, it’s overwhelming. Please protect your own health.

I’ll also add that the prospect of getting a loved one to admit they have dementia isn’t a big help. It seems like it would help, but not really. Even if they do admit it, the’ll forget. Because the reasoning is off, they can’t process how the disease is affecting them. The inability to recognize their condition is quite common. And even if they do, it’s momentary.

It sounds like his doctor may not have experience treating dementia patients. There are ways to handle it.

So, I would certainly get legal advice to get advice on estate planning and your marital rights. Best wishes with everything.