@londonex, I have two grown up sons with families of their own. I can understand how you feel and it’s very difficult to get a sense of being in control, my sons are very important to me and I can’t imagine my life without them. I had a lot of turmoil with their father many years ago and he had tried to make it difficult for me through manipulation of my sons, a very cruel and foolish thing to do because it just created more stress. I think that your children love you more than you know because you’re their father and they still need you to be there, in time things will work out and you’ll see that a lot of your concerns are not true, they will grown up and figure things out for themselves.