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@tatiana987 I’m really sorry you went through that. What you described would leave anyone shaken — bleeding that won’t stop, being ignored when your blood pressure was dangerously high, and then finding the staff weren’t attentive or professional. That’s not “being sensitive”; that’s a genuinely distressing experience.
It’s understandable that your mind is going to the worst-case scenario right now. When something feels chaotic, out of control, and you don’t feel safe, your brain stores that intensely. But having a traumatic medical experience doesn’t automatically mean you’ll end up with lifelong PTSD! Most people gradually settle after the shock wears off, especially once they’re back in a safe, stable situation. (If that's even possible). What you’re feeling right now is your nervous system still in “alarm mode,” and that can take days or weeks to calm down.
What can help you recover from this:
Talk it out, just like you’re doing here. The more your brain can make sense of what happened, the less power the memory holds.
Pay attention to how you’re feeling over the next few days. If the fear, panic, or intrusive thoughts don’t ease — or get worse — reaching out to a therapist can really help prevent the experience from becoming something long-term.
Know that you didn’t deserve any of this. You should never be made to feel ignored, dismissed, or unsafe in a medical setting.
And for what it’s worth: your frustration with the medical system is understandable. Many people have felt the same way, and it doesn’t mean you did anything wrong by trying to get care. You were doing the responsible thing, and the system failed to meet you halfway.
You’re not alone in this, and you’re not overreacting. What happened to you was frightening, and your feelings make sense. Give yourself some time — most people do heal emotionally from experiences like this.
Just like you...I stay frustrated with system...not sure it will ever improve.
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@tommy901 Many thanks. Your words are kind and helpful. Why don’t you write a book exposing or explaining the current U.S. medical crisis? I would buy it.
When I compare what once existed in this country in our system of small town doctors, I am very sure I want that system, not this current one.
I own a beautiful oak chest of drawers that once belonged to my great-grandparents. He was a country doctor. In a drawer I found a letter from the maker of the oak chest, which was a gift to my great-grandparents from a patient who could not pay. The letter thanked my great-grandfather for the medical care and my great-grandmother for cooking for him while he was sick. That beautiful object reminds me of our past and how we could and should be again imo.
By way of contrast, this morning I received two AI messages on my phone from the ER I was in last evening. The messages obviously were intended to be sent last evening while I was in the waiting room at the ER. Those messages are so tragically dishonest and callous that I can only say I am disgusted beyond my capacity for disgust. I will quote some of it: « Our dedicated emergency team is assessing patients based on the severity of their conditions, prioritising life-threatening situations. » (Triage happened for me nearly 2 hours after I arrived at the ER. I was dazed, half passed out, in pain, covered in blood and bleeding on their furniture, with dangerously high blood pressure, no meds and no hydration allowed. I was dead last to be seen. Nobody else was visibly bleeding and half in half out of consciousness. I thought of myself as first in that group of waiting people. Of course, I could not know all the injuries and illnesses that were not immediately visible. I felt left to die and had no idea why I was last on their list, not first.
I asked for help 4 times. I was told that I needed to wait my turn. What does the morning-after messaging say? « …your well-being is our utmost concern. If you notice any changes or your condition worsens, please inform us immediately. Your health and comfort are our top priorities. »
The AI drivel goes on, but I will spare you. Two messages, one dated around 1890 and one dated today show some of the problem, but there is lots more. I await your book and, should it not arrive, I would settle for a book recommendation. Who exposes the current medical disaster really well?