@rashida I don't think so. As I said, as a military guy, I have moved at least eight times in my career. Each time, my wife and I bore down and got to work....as a team. We mapped out our several obligations and challenges, coordinated with each other as to what had to be done in sequence, with or without each other's help, and we came together with the inspection of the trucks' contents and it leaving the curbside on its way to the next posting. We divided the work, each according to his/her abilities and time, and we high-fived as a couple for our successes, time after time. Neither of us felt a stronger responsibility or onus for what had been apportioned to us.

This is not to say that all partnerships are like mine. Perhaps what you say is true for some, and that is unfortunate. I did have one move where my wife had to do almost all of it because I was 3000 km away on a career course and was due to be posted so that the Canadian Forces could benefit from my new training and knowledge. I regret that, but she did everything, and did it very well. In that one case, it would have been very trying and daunting.

@rashida amen !