My wife was recently diagnosed with breast cancer and I am scared

Thank you all for your kind words and encouragement.

@1aug2allis Are you taking aromatase inhibitors?

@pacentro
I only took for 3 weeks. Side effects were bothering me. Achy bones, joint pain, hot flashes waking me up so not good sleep. Fatigue. Didn’t feel like doing much. Still feeling some of the side effects, but diminished.

@1aug2allis I decided not to take anything. I am following an aromatase inhibitor diet. I also decided against partial breast radiation as radiation fries everything without discrimination. If I get a relapse, maybe they will come up something better. I was also thinking of Proton radiation, but probably cannot have it at my hospital.

@pacentro
I hope so for those many women to follow us. I also say follow the money. The more they convince us we need the more money they make. I wasn’t a candidate for chemo when they tested my tumor, and even if I was I would not have done it. When I was getting my bone density today she told me her friend was told to do chemo, when her friend asked the doctor would you have you Mother or daughter do if this were her? The reply was no. So that confirms my feelings.
Good luck to you.

@mimi09 here’s another twist on a diagnosis: there’s always a % who has breast cancer. If not YOU then who should get breast cancer…your sister? bff? daughter? your mother?? what about your cousin? niece? husband? your surgeon? Almost all of us have some-
thing. Hearts, lungs, brains, eyes, all manor of cancers. Is one better or easier to face? I doubt it.

At least we don’t live in the multitudes of countries where undeclared wars are raging, genocide waged, starvation rampant. I might be too Pollyanna for y’all, but we HAVE medical care. Expensive but it’s there…
Thank whatever power you choose for what you have today because tomorrow isn’t promised.

Hi! @pacentro :

Thanks for sharing your experience; could you please share with us what is the "aromatase inhibitor diet", please? How'd you do it daily?

Thanks!

Mushrooms are a natural aromatase inhibitor. Cruciferous veggies like Broccoli, Cauliflower, Kale suppress estrogen. Also certain nuts like walnuts. Alcohol seems to bind to estrogen, but it seems that if you drink on an empty stomach, the absorbtion will be rapid. I am not a doctor, so I am not giving expert advice. There are many studies on these things. Some people follow this, but it doesn't give the bang of aromatase inhibitors which suck all of the estrogen out of bones, fat and muscles in post-menopausal women.

UCFsig85,
May you and your wife be blessed and draw closer together thorough this journey.

In my opinion, the best way not to be scared is to take action and by that I mean, do research, dramatically change your diet, change your lifestyle, start walking, throw out all the old skin care and cleaning products buy new organic safe ones, get rid of plastic, engage with friends and family more. It might be a little overwhelming at first, but it’s also very empowering and definitely takes some of the fear away.