Prostate Cancer Incontinence: What products do you use? Tips?

Posted by script72 @script72, Oct 18, 2025

My husband had successful prostate cancer surgery in 2003 at age 53. In 2025 at age 77 he is becoming more incontinent but he feels worth the price to be alive all these years. He uses Depends and has to change frequently but wonders if anyone experiencing this same outcome has any other better methods or product they use. He does kegel exercises everyday and wants to stay away from surgery. He thinks it is stress incontinence as he has no problems during the night.

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peterj116 | @peterj116 | Nov 10, 2025

In reply to @surftohealth88 "@peterj116 That is very neat data spreadsheet Peter : )) ! I am sure your doctor..." + (show)

@surftohealth88 It got me the AUS pretty quickly.

"How many pads are you going through?"
"Well each entry there is a pad change"
"Oh".
(books the surgery)

surftohealth88 | @surftohealth88 | Nov 10, 2025

In reply to @peterj116 "@surftohealth88 It got me the AUS pretty quickly. "How many pads are you going through?" "Well..." + (show)

@peterj116

Oh I know - they are sometimes very stuck with terminology or methods of measuring *eyeroll. HOW on Earth number of pads measures correctly incontinence ???

First of all there are different pads with different absorbency !
Second, there are people that are ultra clean by nature and would change a pad even with few droplets of urine ( like my husband now) or guys that just do not give a damn and change it when it feels really wet. Now - those 2 theoretical guys could be having the same "number of pads" in 24 hours and absolutely completely different amount of incontinence !!!

BUT - doctors always first ask- how many pads ??? I mean - just shoot me !
It would be like asking somebody how many times a day they consume water without asking how much at each serving - is it a sip from your hand , or 8 oz each time ?! I do not know how they do any research or follow patients, honestly LMAO.

sanDGuy | @sandguy | Nov 10, 2025

In reply to @surftohealth88 "@sandguy ahahhaaaa, I am re-watching Downton Abbey at the moment so you cracked me up -..." + (show)

@surftohealth88
Yes, of course, m'lady.

jimgaudette | @jimgaudette | Nov 11, 2025

I had an artificial urinary sphincter (Boston Scientific AMS 800) implanted. It works wonderfully. During the same surgery, I also had an IPP implanted. I am very happy with both. I can now go on vacation without a large suitcase just for my pads and am no longer hassled by security at airports

edutron | @edutron | Nov 11, 2025

Paper towels (3 folded over) , cheap inside depends.

sanDGuy | @sandguy | Nov 11, 2025

In reply to @edutron "Paper towels (3 folded over) , cheap inside depends." + (show)

@edutron
Oh, that's hilarious, yeah, I do the same thing (but fortunately just a single one suffices)!

surftohealth88 | @surftohealth88 | Nov 11, 2025

Hey ( @edutron and @sandguy ) - if that suffice you really do not need depends (assuming your are using Depends Briefs ???) If you are using small pads, than OK, maybe it is more comfortable or more affordable. I was just worried that you are overestimating urine amount if paper towel is enough.