What a beautiful lily. I love daylilies and used to buy 2 whenever we went on vacation as a remembrance of that vacation. I had all sorts of colors ... they were gorgeous and I loved them, that is IF the deer didn't eat the flowers right before they opened!!!
Your story of being blamed for your father's suicide is heartbreaking. I don't know how any parent in their right mind could possibly do that to a child. Those are the things that hang on, even with age. I've got some also ... my mother always threatened she was going to pack my bag, put it on the porch, and some day when I came home from school, I'd just have to go live somewhere else. I was 7. It took a long time and a lot of therapy to realize that was her problem, not mine, but I still feel the scars from it even though I've been through many years of therapy. I'm so very sorry you had to hear that ...... I don't know what to say about your mother ..... it's just too difficult to even imagine her doing that to you. Remember ..... you DID NOT make the choice to do that ...... your father MADE HIS OWN CHOICE and was fully responsible for it.
Blessings,
abby

@amberpep I was 24 when my father made the choice he did and I honestly do not know how he made it a little past 25 years. I have worked on trying to stop her words and even though she died 5 years ago her recantations still strike me. She had to have been a sick woman. She could control her behavior and that was always confusing. Stuff happens. I do not understand why some people are so mean. I know it always got my mom what she wanted so I presume some do what works for them.

glad you enjoyed the Day Lily...the rabbits did in my purple cone flowers this year...lazy little rodents. The Rudbeckia are in all of their glory.

Abby: @amberpep

A very insightful comment! Teresa

@parus

I'm thankful to have lots of flowers and bushes and trees. We have 10 acres, and I could develop as much or as little as I want. I keep planting and dividing, finding more places to put things. It's hard to pass up a good deal on a plant. I didn't buy any annuals this year. When I looked at the prices, I decided that I have plenty of things around my place, with something blooming from spring until fall. For the past several years, I've made big pots of petunias for the patio and deck. After my decision not to spend $$ on annuals, I found that the pots were full of a combination of petunias and snapdragons. Free flowers all summer! I planted a half barrel with snapdragons one year, and they just keep reseeding, in lots of different places.

I could write all afternoon about the yard, but this isn't a gardening forum, so I'll just say that my yards are part of my treatment program 5.

Jim

It sounds lovely, Jim. I used to garden a lot, flowers and veggies, canning. Wish I could plant flowers now, but between the lack of funds and my physical limitations, it's about impossible. Who knows, maybe someday that will change a little and I'll be able to enjoy again. Your yard must be beautiful. I'm so glad you appreciate them!

@paracat

I live on very little income. I'm on SS disability. I definitely garden on a budget, focusing on perennials. The flowers self sow, some a bit too vigorously. Creeping Phlox makes a pretty, spreading mat. I keep my eyes out for plants going to seed, and collect them into a baggie and throw them around the perennial beds and out in an area that I decided to let it go natural. I put out seeds of natives and I'm not going to mow it next year. I'll see what happens.

I like having pots on the patio, but I'm putting succulents in them that spread and grow easily. I have 3 kinds that live outside here in central Oregon, and hens and chicks do well. I'm fairly sure that any gardener would be happy to give you starts. As for pots, lots of things can be used to hold plants-I've been pretty creative repurposing.

Look around. I think you'll find something to plant and tend close at hand. Have fun with it.

Jim