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@lcl44
I feel your pain - my husband has always been a procrastinator (to my frustration), but he is talented and would eventually get the job done sooner or later. Now, in his mid-80's, with moderate dementia, he realizes he can't do it all. His last attempt was replacing a valve in the kitchen sink - after a few fruitless days at this, with parts all over and no kitchen water, he finally agreed to call a plumber and - presto - we have a new modern kitchen faucet (plus a big bill, but you can't take it with you).
My husband was never a reader so he sits on the couch with the t.v. going - he used to be a tennis enthusiast but you can only watch so many of those reruns until it gets boring. His other time-filler is looking at his pictures on his cell phone - he has a lot of them, and they help him recall people and events.

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@jillsy Wow, we have quite a bit in common! My husband’s an engineer who still has an amazing ability to think through and solve “fix-it” problems but is getting more forgetful of things and slower at solving puzzles, and of course if physically not able to do the things that he once did, and that frustrates the heck out of him. Re: procrastination we have this saying: “Just because I have not yet done that thing I said I would there’s no need to remind me every six months.”
We have a Tennis Channel subscription which after obligatory evening news, Jeopardy and Wheel of Fortune rounds our our evening TV watching. Live tennis going on somewhere in the world all the time.
Hang in there!