@mattk56 Arrange respite care and do it without guilt or feeling you need to be stronger. To arrange respite care go to her physician and ask for a social worker evaluation of your situation.

The mental fatigue is from having to deal with abnormal. The human brain isn't equipped to do abnormal for long; so mental fatigue sets in.

If you had a broken arm you would logically go get help.

You are taking care of two ppl now; remember not to take the backseat for too long.

@mattk56 I cry and pray. But I also have the good fortune of having long term health insurance which pays for a private duty caregiver which I make myself use three or four times a week for at least 3 hours. Yes, I feel guilty leaving him but have found the alternative to be massive anxiety in the pit of my stomach wondering how long the good time will last. Today I went to a coffee shop and then a park to walk. I called my sister and vented. It helps. Take care.