My heart goes out to each and every one of you caregivers and today, the issue of dealing with the driving. My husband was diagnosed with late onset of moderate dementia/AD in early May 2025 (in 2021 he was evaluated and diagnosed with MCI). In those three years several changes became noticeable to me and our children (one being his driving) and asked his PCP at the annual exam if my husband couldn’t be reevaluated by a neuropsychologist (which was done in March 2025). Test results were shared with his neurologist and, after an MRI and blood work he (we) were advised he had late onset of moderate AD and, that he “should stop driving” etc. My husband appeared to understand this and, that he would comply with the advice. A few days later he himself said we might as well gift his car to our oldest grandson but didn’t move forward with this for a couple of weeks (I wanted to give him control of making this decision). After that I notified DMV, our auto insurance and, our grandson came and picked up the car with his new plates etc. I mention the timeline because in early October (5 months after being advised not to drive) I noticed he was waking up sullen, quiet and after giving him plenty of time to forget what he was brooding about I’d ask him how he was feeling. He would yell and tell me how unfair this was and how very upset he was about not being able to drive, that his great car was gone and how much he loved his car. He was accusing the doctor of somehow manipulating his situation in order to take his car from him for herself!! No matter how I explained the situation and how this all came about he felt he was treated unjustly. This pattern of waking up with those thoughts and feelings has been going on daily since then. I’m praying he’ll soon forget the car and about driving.

I didn’t realize about the insurance not paying if he had an accident so this is good information to have to tell him. I also didn’t know about lawyers for “elders” and will need to look into that.

Thanks for sharing your experiences, thoughts and comments-they do a world of good!