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He thinks there is another person in the house. Or it's his mother (who died in 2004). Or his cousin (who lives 3000 miles away) Or whomever. Then he confronts me as to who that person was and where was I all that time that person was in the house. I have tried to tell him it's just me. It just angers him. If I agree with him, he gets angry that I deceived him, or was disrespectful because I didn't tell him where I was and didn't "even" leave a note. I am at wits end. Maybe its the antibiotics and the dementia combined? I don't know what to do or how to respond.

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@reddesert I understand what you are struggling with. My husband believes there are people who live in our barn who come and go in our home. He is so fearful of one particular man that he does not even want to go out in the yard and has gotten to where he won’t go down to the barn. He is the happiest when we are away from our home. He accuses me of being in cahoots with them. He is so distrustful, especially since he is no longer allowed access to his guns. He’s a country boy so carrying a gun has always been a way of life. Everything that my husband cannot find he blames on the people stealing it. In actuality he has hidden everything he owns or considers valuable and can’t remember where. Everyone tells you to get in their world, but there comes a point after so much fear and suspicion and accusations that I have to deny their existence. The doctor finally understands where I am coming from as my husband told him all about them at our last visit. The doctor increased his Rivastigmine patch dosage and his Seroquel dosage. I sure hope it helps. This part of the journey is really wearing me down. Hang in there and do seek help. Even if it’s a support group where you can share what you are going through. It’s helps to get it out. I read earlier where someone wrote “they can’t help it and we can’t either.” That is so true.