Hi Dawn,
Great ideas! My husband had lung cancer and we went through a lot of unexpected emergencies etc. I did pretty much like you did. I had everything ready to go, including many printed copies of all his medications, reactions, doctors' contact information etc. I had a huge purse which was so handy for everything even a banana and my medications. Otherwise you are going to be without things or spending a lot of money at the hospital cafeteria. Also we found out early on, that when my husband ordered dinner when he was in the hospital he ordered an extra serving of yogurt for me! It worked out perfect and we could eat together!

As far as your communication issue, tell your husband how much you love him. He's obviously dealing with a lot. Also ask God for guidance in this matter. I'll say a prayer for both of you.
I wish you the best.
PML