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Lonely and Just want to talk with virtual friends here
Due to 'life' I never had the opportunity to make friends. I hardly ever went out, am single, and feel desperately lonely. I can take care of myself and always have but have learned my caring skills weren't particularly good. They kept me alive but I have not lived.
No holidays, trips, bar, no beach or forest, nothing. And no friends to go out with or to simply have a chat.
I still work and I think my clients would be perplexed. They know me as a sunny and mischievous teacher who pulls their legs so they learn more, and trick them into doing things wrong to help understand it all even better. Little do they know. I am very alone and lonely. Being alone is not that big of a biggie: I know how to do that. But the loneliness is hollowing me out.
I wondered about making friends. I never had friends, I feel very awkward about friendship. I miss the person I am with clients in my daily life. I really would like someone to chat with. It would be so nice to even fall in love. To feel I am being loved. I never had that. It's so strange to realise so many are loved; is it normal to be loved, to find someone who loves you? Or is it the golden shine of being lucky and blessed enough to find this?
It would do me a lot of good to find people to chat with. Video for instance would be nice to get to know people. To chat, have a virtual cup of tea, or a real one of course! And to not be too ashamed of myself to hide behind the smiles and fun but to open up and maybe one day even be accepted.
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red79, How are you? I am not savvy enough to do the online chat....sorry.
I did see the 1% program you spoke about. Are you one of those 1% people? If so, you are
extremely smart. Jeopardy is enough challenge for me!
Praying for you and I do care. Blessings....
I've been feeling the same so long and I feel like there is no hope for rekindling a relationship that has died 20+ years of commitment starting at the age of 15 with kids were not in love with each other and it clear that she will never be in love with me again all the years I've been feeling like this has only dropped me to knowing there is no hope and the urge to meet and greet yet I feel there will never be a change
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1 Reaction@ellamster Just read your post and could relate to the friendship skill which I did not master. My narcissistic mother made sure that I did not have friends for if anyone tried to get close she would make my life miserable. So I did not develop or master the skill of friendships. I do make attempts, but am very unmastered. I’m very awkward and not familiar with the nuances of developing friendships for me, but I do try.
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2 ReactionsI would love to simply listen and talk and conversate I'd love to hear from you
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1 ReactionI understand where you're coming from, it's hard for me to make friends.
also i am new
I live nearby in Bradenton Lakewood Ranch area. It is truly difficult down here in this part of Florida. First, the weather for half the year is not conducive to being outside where you might meet people on a walk. Second, with snowbirds and foreign visitors, the only suggested interactions are church, volunteering (and often they say they do not need any more) and work, if you are capable. This area need some kind of meet up group that allows people to randomly meet and speak with other people who just want company, or a group that volunteers to visit and converse with those who are lonely and in need of company. What is your current status? Age? Interests? Maybe we could get a group together to "meet up" somewhere and start something
I cant, sorry
I’m sorry to hear that for you, but you’re not alone. I occasionally speak to one friend from high school who doesn’t live near me. I’ve worked most of my life and part of that time I’ve worked two jobs. I did get married and had one child. My husband passed away a several years ago at 51 and my son is now married. Most of my family has passed away except for a few, some family I’m not close to (not for bad reasons - just grew apart after many years) and others live far away. So it’s been me and two ferrets. I don’t know how to make friends and there aren’t things to do in the town that I live in. I do wish I had a friend that visits, calls, text and hang out. I want a friend that makes me feel visible.
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1 ReactionI have a husband and granddaughter who live with me and 7 cats and 2 dogs and I feel so alone a lot. I feel like I have no one to talk to openly about anything