Self doubt and lack of confidence. That’s hard. Most experience it in some level at some point in there life. When it becomes persistent and limits your ability to function or to take advantage of opportunities and enjoy life, that’s really concerning. It can range from indecisiveness to feeling unworthy to feeling undeserving or worrying that others will perceive them as a fraud (imposter syndrome). I myself have had imposter syndrome at various times in my life. Learning that it had a name, defining it, really helped me.
Did these feelings first start 6-8 years ago, or does it trace back further? Possibly to childhood? If so, were there parent-child conflicts, sibling comparisons? anxiety, depression, or PTSD may also predispose persistent self doubt. People with PTSD are neurodivergent, their brain processes differently, I don’t know much about it, but that could be a factor to address.
My initial advice (these may seem daunting at first, try one thing at a time and celebrate victories):
Practice self compassion
Reflect or journal on past accomplishments
Avoid comparisons with others. Focus on your self growth
Become aware of negative self talk, challenge the truth of the negative thoughts
Cultivate healthy habits
See what you can do to create a support system. I find this website to be a source of support. It’s a start,
Break large goals into small achievable steps. Celebrate each step you accomplish
Try to be physically active each day. Again , start small.
Practice healthy living. Sleep, nutrition, etc.
Have u heard of power poses? The easiest one that comes to mind is a study I read on surgeons. If they practiced a ‘Superman’ pose for 5 minutes before surgery, they actually performed better!
There are many knowledgeable and supportive people on this website. I look forward to reading their responses.
Self doubt and lack of confidence. That’s hard. Most experience it in some level at some point in there life. When it becomes persistent and limits your ability to function or to take advantage of opportunities and enjoy life, that’s really concerning. It can range from indecisiveness to feeling unworthy to feeling undeserving or worrying that others will perceive them as a fraud (imposter syndrome). I myself have had imposter syndrome at various times in my life. Learning that it had a name, defining it, really helped me.
Did these feelings first start 6-8 years ago, or does it trace back further? Possibly to childhood? If so, were there parent-child conflicts, sibling comparisons? anxiety, depression, or PTSD may also predispose persistent self doubt. People with PTSD are neurodivergent, their brain processes differently, I don’t know much about it, but that could be a factor to address.
My initial advice (these may seem daunting at first, try one thing at a time and celebrate victories):
Practice self compassion
Reflect or journal on past accomplishments
Avoid comparisons with others. Focus on your self growth
Become aware of negative self talk, challenge the truth of the negative thoughts
Cultivate healthy habits
See what you can do to create a support system. I find this website to be a source of support. It’s a start,
Break large goals into small achievable steps. Celebrate each step you accomplish
Try to be physically active each day. Again , start small.
Practice healthy living. Sleep, nutrition, etc.
Have u heard of power poses? The easiest one that comes to mind is a study I read on surgeons. If they practiced a ‘Superman’ pose for 5 minutes before surgery, they actually performed better!
There are many knowledgeable and supportive people on this website. I look forward to reading their responses.
I appreciate your words of wisdom, but being nicer to myself seems impossible. I think my feelings do track back to childhood, I don't remember much about it. I may have PTSD. but you know, for a person who self doubts a lot, it's a lot harder to be nice to themselves.
I/we understand completely. Since I was dx with gastritis and IBS, i get discomfort every day because of the viseral hypersensitivity. It can be soul destroying.
Then add routine care for airway clearance can be a bit much.
Sometimes I dont do the vest because I have stomach pain.
You cant give up Ginny! Speak to your doctor about pain. You are not alone.
Marie
I appreciate your words of wisdom, but being nicer to myself seems impossible. I think my feelings do track back to childhood, I don't remember much about it. I may have PTSD. but you know, for a person who self doubts a lot, it's a lot harder to be nice to themselves.
Most people are their own harshest critics and focus more on faults than strengths. Be mindful of your feelings without judgement. Maybe try starting with just recognizing negative self talk. After you’ve got that down, start a conversation with yourself, reply back to yourself as though you were a friend. Developing positive self talk is a gradual process, be mindful of every small step, and congratulate yourself. Use positive affirmations, like “I am proud of myself “. If you can find it on YouTube (I will look as well), there is a quite inspirational talk by the head of the Air Force, of all people. He talks a bit about the importance of making ones bed in the morning. The short version is that you start off the morning with an easy to accomplish positive task that you can be proud of. Maybe it’s a different task that works for you.
At the top of the page, in the search bar, search negative self talk. When I did that, many, many posts came up, perhaps someone else replied in a way that seems easier for you.
I appreciate your words of wisdom, but being nicer to myself seems impossible. I think my feelings do track back to childhood, I don't remember much about it. I may have PTSD. but you know, for a person who self doubts a lot, it's a lot harder to be nice to themselves.
Most people are their own harshest critics and focus more on faults than strengths. Be mindful of your feelings without judgement. Maybe try starting with just recognizing negative self talk. After you’ve got that down, start a conversation with yourself, reply back to yourself as though you were a friend. Developing positive self talk is a gradual process, be mindful of every small step, and congratulate yourself. Use positive affirmations, like “I am proud of myself “. If you can find it on YouTube (I will look as well), there is a quite inspirational talk by the head of the Air Force, of all people. He talks a bit about the importance of making ones bed in the morning. The short version is that you start off the morning with an easy to accomplish positive task that you can be proud of. Maybe it’s a different task that works for you.
At the top of the page, in the search bar, search negative self talk. When I did that, many, many posts came up, perhaps someone else replied in a way that seems easier for you.
Most people are their own harshest critics and focus more on faults than strengths. Be mindful of your feelings without judgement. Maybe try starting with just recognizing negative self talk. After you’ve got that down, start a conversation with yourself, reply back to yourself as though you were a friend. Developing positive self talk is a gradual process, be mindful of every small step, and congratulate yourself. Use positive affirmations, like “I am proud of myself “. If you can find it on YouTube (I will look as well), there is a quite inspirational talk by the head of the Air Force, of all people. He talks a bit about the importance of making ones bed in the morning. The short version is that you start off the morning with an easy to accomplish positive task that you can be proud of. Maybe it’s a different task that works for you.
At the top of the page, in the search bar, search negative self talk. When I did that, many, many posts came up, perhaps someone else replied in a way that seems easier for you.
I read an article that also mentioned making ones bed every morning. As a kid that's how it went. I still do make it each morning & it is a nice habit.
I read an article that also mentioned making ones bed every morning. As a kid that's how it went. I still do make it each morning & it is a nice habit.
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trying to be perfect. no. A long time. 6-8 years. adhd,anxiety, anger issues, depression, self doubt. my self doubt is the hardest. no support system.
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4 ReactionsSelf doubt and lack of confidence. That’s hard. Most experience it in some level at some point in there life. When it becomes persistent and limits your ability to function or to take advantage of opportunities and enjoy life, that’s really concerning. It can range from indecisiveness to feeling unworthy to feeling undeserving or worrying that others will perceive them as a fraud (imposter syndrome). I myself have had imposter syndrome at various times in my life. Learning that it had a name, defining it, really helped me.
Did these feelings first start 6-8 years ago, or does it trace back further? Possibly to childhood? If so, were there parent-child conflicts, sibling comparisons? anxiety, depression, or PTSD may also predispose persistent self doubt. People with PTSD are neurodivergent, their brain processes differently, I don’t know much about it, but that could be a factor to address.
My initial advice (these may seem daunting at first, try one thing at a time and celebrate victories):
Practice self compassion
Reflect or journal on past accomplishments
Avoid comparisons with others. Focus on your self growth
Become aware of negative self talk, challenge the truth of the negative thoughts
Cultivate healthy habits
See what you can do to create a support system. I find this website to be a source of support. It’s a start,
Break large goals into small achievable steps. Celebrate each step you accomplish
Try to be physically active each day. Again , start small.
Practice healthy living. Sleep, nutrition, etc.
Have u heard of power poses? The easiest one that comes to mind is a study I read on surgeons. If they practiced a ‘Superman’ pose for 5 minutes before surgery, they actually performed better!
There are many knowledgeable and supportive people on this website. I look forward to reading their responses.
I’ll be thinking about you.
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6 ReactionsI appreciate your words of wisdom, but being nicer to myself seems impossible. I think my feelings do track back to childhood, I don't remember much about it. I may have PTSD. but you know, for a person who self doubts a lot, it's a lot harder to be nice to themselves.
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4 ReactionsI/we understand completely. Since I was dx with gastritis and IBS, i get discomfort every day because of the viseral hypersensitivity. It can be soul destroying.
Then add routine care for airway clearance can be a bit much.
Sometimes I dont do the vest because I have stomach pain.
You cant give up Ginny! Speak to your doctor about pain. You are not alone.
Marie
Most people are their own harshest critics and focus more on faults than strengths. Be mindful of your feelings without judgement. Maybe try starting with just recognizing negative self talk. After you’ve got that down, start a conversation with yourself, reply back to yourself as though you were a friend. Developing positive self talk is a gradual process, be mindful of every small step, and congratulate yourself. Use positive affirmations, like “I am proud of myself “. If you can find it on YouTube (I will look as well), there is a quite inspirational talk by the head of the Air Force, of all people. He talks a bit about the importance of making ones bed in the morning. The short version is that you start off the morning with an easy to accomplish positive task that you can be proud of. Maybe it’s a different task that works for you.
At the top of the page, in the search bar, search negative self talk. When I did that, many, many posts came up, perhaps someone else replied in a way that seems easier for you.
Do u have a good therapist?
Most people are their own harshest critics and focus more on faults than strengths. Be mindful of your feelings without judgement. Maybe try starting with just recognizing negative self talk. After you’ve got that down, start a conversation with yourself, reply back to yourself as though you were a friend. Developing positive self talk is a gradual process, be mindful of every small step, and congratulate yourself. Use positive affirmations, like “I am proud of myself “. If you can find it on YouTube (I will look as well), there is a quite inspirational talk by the head of the Air Force, of all people. He talks a bit about the importance of making ones bed in the morning. The short version is that you start off the morning with an easy to accomplish positive task that you can be proud of. Maybe it’s a different task that works for you.
At the top of the page, in the search bar, search negative self talk. When I did that, many, many posts came up, perhaps someone else replied in a way that seems easier for you.
Do u have a good therapist?
As I was typing this, a post appeared about yoga (adaptive yoga if u have physical ailments) and how it can foster self esteem.
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/blog/chronic-pain-symptoms-rehabilitation/newsfeed-post/overview-of-yoga-for-chronic-symptoms/
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2 ReactionsI found the video. I hope you find it as inspiring as I do
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I read an article that also mentioned making ones bed every morning. As a kid that's how it went. I still do make it each morning & it is a nice habit.
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