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Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: 2 hours ago | Replies (79)Comment receiving replies
I did get POA over him and I’m POD on his accounts and joint owner of a cd. I too am worried. He emptied out our garage while I was at work! I know what you are going through. His kids do nothing and are far away. His friends say they will come when he dies and honestly I would give them something knowing they would have to pay a caretaker and I don’t get paid! I’m doing everything! Alone and afraid. Try speaking with a lawyer and see if it’s too late. Even though I feel like I have the bases covered you just don’t feel comfortable about it.
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My husband, 72, was dx’d with dementia/probable Altzheimers about 1-1/2 years ago. The neurologist who dx’d him was right on the money!
At the present time, we’re in a senior facility at roughly 6.5K monthly. He sits here blankly staring at his phone or at nothing.
As you might’ve guessed, I (75) am his reluctant caregiver. It’s getting harder and harder to deal with him while managing my own health problems. My son, who lives about an hour away, hardly visits; however, he is in the process of having an extension built to his house for us (we’re paying, of course). He tells me it’s probably going to be approximately 9 months before it’s finished, but I’m not sure I can survive that long.
If anyone has any advice, I’m here to listen.
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maryjow718 - Thank you for your words of understanding - you hit it right on the head.
Like you, we have wills, but with his daughter and her trying to get him to sign a new will, well SHE scares me.
Yet, she didn't even bother to call or send him a card for Father's Day and she is only 5 miles away.
He can be sharp as a tack and then just give things away. The one time I tried to stop him he told me that they, new table saw, scroll saw, old real old fishing lures (some mine) and equipment had no value. Not so.
Meanwhile, I am trying to downsize things through eBay, take clothes to resale shop because every dime counts these days.
I post this stuff here because it keeps me from screaming. I want to cry so bad but am afraid I won't stop. Like you I feel alone and afraid. And like you, I keep trying to make sure the bases are covered but don't feel comfortable about it.