Thank you for your response in letting me know I am not alone. My H's daughter lives 5 miles away and he hasn't seen her since before Christmas...too busy unless she wants something.

We are taking care of the things that need to be fixed on the house now because we will be able to afford less etc. later.

My really big concern is that H is giving everything he can away to people that we don't even know!!!!
We had a new shed put up (luckily insurance covered that) and had gutters put on it. The gutter job was contracted by me for $250.00. After they were done, H walks out and tells them he is so happy with the work he is going to give them another $100 on top of the $250.!!

Same thing this Saturday when I had a contractor paint the deck for a fixed price. H is going to give him an additional large amount of money because he liked the job.

Luckily I told both contractors that H has early dementia and they understood though I am certain if he gave them more they would take it.

Let me state here that we are not wealthy, we live off our social security and about $9,000 out of our IRA's so money matters.

Earlier this summer he gave away all his tools, table saw, scroll saw, etc. to neighbors and people we don't even know. They were thrilled to get the items, quality items, for free. Then he goes looking for one of his tools and is mad because he can't find it, I must have done something with it.

I have to watch like a hawk that he doesn't give the house away (well he can't, but you know what I mean). Seems, he just so wants to look good, be liked, make up for his mental failing or something.

And with all this I can't get a dementia diagnosis on him.

I mentioned this before and will mention it again because it scares me. Last summer he was in the hospital for a health scare where they kept him in for tests. His daughter showed up, when I wasn't there, with copies of a new will for him to sign - 3 to be exact. l., for if he dies; 1 if I die; and 1 if we both die together (the 3rd one makes me wonder what she has in mind). She was hoping to get the nurses to witness. When I got back the nurse told me about what had happened and that she declined to witness anything. In fact, pestering him like that falls under elder abuse and she said I needed to be aware of it.

I am going to call the attorney to see if there is anything I can do to keep him from giving everything away. I just don't know.