@anagusich, this must be so disconcerting for you. Please remember this is the disease, not your husband, that is causing this sexually inappropriate behavior. It happens with some patients.
I found some helpful advice from this article online:
- Dementia and Inappropriate Behavior: How to Respond https://www.agingcare.com/articles/things-people-with-dementia-say-155103.htm
Here's an excerpt that is relevant to your experience.
"If your husband attempts to grope a caregiver or even a stranger, calmly say, “That’s inappropriate,” or something to indicate that his behavior is unacceptable. It won’t help to scold, however. Promptly remove him from the situation if possible. Apologize to the person affected and discreetly explain to them that your loved one has dementia and their actions are a result of the disease. If this happens to a professional caregiver, take comfort in the fact that they are trained to handle challenging Alzheimer's situations like these.
If sexually disinhibited behavior escalates and begins interfering with your loved one’s ability to socialize and/or go out in public, it can drastically affect their quality of life. Speak to their doctor and/or elder care providers about nonpharmacological and pharmacological strategies for managing this behavior. For example, assigning male caregivers to an older man who tries to grope female staff could prevent this sexually inappropriate behavior and protect the dignity of all involved.
Specialty clothing that is difficult or impossible for a senior to remove without assistance can help thwart instances of exhibitionism. Depending on the nature and severity of the issue, prescription drugs like antidepressants may be recommended to help reduce a patient’s libido, although this option does come with risks and side effects."
You might also appreciate connecting with members in this related discussion:
- Alzheimers and sexual behavior: Any suggestions? https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/alzheimers-and-sexual-behavior/
@anagusich, is your husband displaying this behavior in public? Is he at home with you or in a care home?
My husband lives at home.
Short term memory is completely gone, but he’s still remembers. Can talk to people converse my biggest problem is he likes to sit in the garage that faces front street and when he see female walking by he’ll expose himself.
He is good in public no problem just like to ask him where arethey from then start conversation with them.
He is on Seroquel that makes him sleepy and looking sad. Otherwise he’s a happy person.
How much hoping to find something that would lower his libido.
Thank you so much for answering some of my questions. May God bless you.
Sincerely, Ana