Thanks for commenting. You know, after a lot of years we've all changed, but when a person gets really old it's hard to understand how they're going to act on any problem that confronts them. When a person is used to certain things working out they become complacent that it's always going to have it their way. 5-6 years ago our disputes were over trivial things. It was more about maintaining her control and always being right. I always felt the presence of my father who passed at a very young looking 70. It was a year and a half after he had a bad stroke and heart attack leading to very bad, long end of life experience. He had done all the house work and they were about to hit their 50th wedding anniversary. They were a good looking couple and enjoyed the same things. I was 45 and had three kids at home and a grandchild on the way. She went through a lot of changes the first few years after his death and I helped her then and she had a sister who lived a short walk down the street. She had no interest in another man but was involved in the church more and more. In hindsight I realize now how gullible she was, and the internet opened a world of opportunity for believing how vitamins would keep her happy, healthy and alive to 122 years old. She was in great shape to begin with, eating healthy and exercising and doing lots of yard work. She was raised to work, born during the Depression.
Anyway, I can understand the way we've gotten here today.

My wife took her for routine blood work this morning. She told me I needed to stay home (LOL). So mom runs into a couple who she worked with back in 60's -90's. She asked them about their parents. Two had passed a few years ago and the fellow's mother was in assisted living. She was 101 with dementia. He was an only child and apparently had been in a similar place as I am today. My mother completely ignored the negatives of this story. She has a powerful ability to focus only on what she wants. In other words, nothing I say means anything, The current issues about itching and believing anything from the mail but not me or her doctor is typical. She can be very charming. Loves the attention she gets at PT and doctor's appt's. She's very biased and it plays into the will. I could ramble on and on. Thank you for caring.