@nmrcdigman
Yes—you aptly described the list of responsibilities! (although I’m not sure about the “road to hell” thing—I guess you meant the care recipient’s hellish existence as they suffer the indignities and losses of age?) Not to mention the coordination of many many docs, labs, imaging, insurance approvals, referrals, forms, medicine schedules and their side effects versus symptoms of other things, guarding against interactions, etc. Watching hydration (not too much or too little), the PRN meds, monitoring vitals. Nurses and techs coming and going into and out of the home. And how to keep them engaged and active and moving as best they can. It is constant stress that can invade your dreams. And you are dealing with a grown person who has their own opinion about it all! In my early sixties, I am praying daily to not have a pessimistic outlook on my and my husbands own future with aging. I know there is grace and there can be good to be found in these times, and I personally have seen many blessings. But it is all really harder than anyone who hasn’t experienced it can know!

I cannot began to tell you how you and I could be living almost identical lives. I am frustrated, sad, scared and overwhelmed! The more I do the less he appreciates what I say, what I do or just being there.It never stops. Can you do this, can you do that, and thank you would be nice. Thanks for sharing. You are a saint. Please take care of yourself as well. 🫂 💕