I agree. Married 30 years to a Psychopath/Narcissist. Three beautiful sons, l regret not having the strength to leave much earlier. I still have PTSD that crops up. Last person was absolutely correct... They do not change... theu will say they adore you one minute and abuse you in every way the next. Pathological liars. Crocodile tears when it suits them. Its a sliding scale psychopathy wise... Do not underestimate what they can be capable of if thwarted. Always play the victim and it is your fault. Do not like to take responsibility for their actions or words if accused. Needs to always be about them.. if you find yourself walking on eggshells wondering how she/he will treat you today... Leave sooner rather than later. I was so 'in love' with my long time boyfriend then husband all the gaslighting left me feeling less than. Trust your instincts. They truly lack empathy and loyalty. Take good care and keep sharing.