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Okay, I need your responses and help with this one
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One final thing I want to point out is this. Over 25 years ago we lived in the Chicago area and shopped at the Jewel grocery store.
In the last week H has been commenting that when I go to Jewell I should pick him up some whatever he wants. The grocery store down here is Kroger or Wal-Mart and he knows that and use to call it that until the last week.
I don't know if that means or adds anything, but it seemed strange that after 25 years he should be calling the grocery store Jewell.
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Hi My wife keeps asking me to take her to a store that does not now nor ever did exist where we live. She refers to the fact we use to park behind it. There are 2 stores that we park behind but the one she refers to is not one of them. I suppose this will sort itself soon.
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I agree with DanL, it isn't worth it to argue with your husband. It appears that he is losing more of his short term memory and that may be why he is resorting to previous stores, etc. In the scheme of things, does it really matter what he calls it. You knew what he meant and so he is still communicating with you. Same with country names etc. He is most liking frustrated that he can't quite get it right. Pointing out to him when he is wrong doesn't help. In the beginning, I tried to correct my husband. Eventually I started biting my tongue so that I wouldn't try to correct him all the time. Now it is easier. I don't get upset and neither does he. I think because my husband would have good days and bad, I was in denial that he couldn't understand or didn't call things by the right name. Now I realize that it is a downward spiral and I appreciate his good days as a blessing. He is not going to "get over" dementia. It is what it is.